Thursday, June 4, 2009
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Aren't we called to treat women like sisters? I don't desire a sister; can you explain that?
1 Timothy 5
1 Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, 2 older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.
If you're a good sibling, you're protective towards yours sisters. You care for them. You want them best for them. You don't take sexual advantage of them. You don't make sexual advances towards them.
Things You Do With Your Sister
Things You Don't Do With Your Sister
Brothers and fathers are notorious for threatening to beat up anyone that threatens the purity of their sister or daughter. That's the attitude you should have towards young ladies.
Too may guys view young ladies as objects for their pleasure, things to be used. If that's you, repent now. Girls, if you know a guy like that, stay away from him. Guys, if you know someone like that, go confront him right now.
1 Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, 2 older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.
If you're a good sibling, you're protective towards yours sisters. You care for them. You want them best for them. You don't take sexual advantage of them. You don't make sexual advances towards them.
Things You Do With Your Sister
- Hang out
- Talk
- Go eat
- Play games
Things You Don't Do With Your Sister
- Make out
- Talk Dirty
- Pass first, second, or third base...or go anywhere ear the field
Brothers and fathers are notorious for threatening to beat up anyone that threatens the purity of their sister or daughter. That's the attitude you should have towards young ladies.
Too may guys view young ladies as objects for their pleasure, things to be used. If that's you, repent now. Girls, if you know a guy like that, stay away from him. Guys, if you know someone like that, go confront him right now.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
What's an appropriate way (after you have figured out that you and your girlfriend/boyfriend aren't "meant to be") to let them go?
Do it...
1) Quickly
Don't drag things out. Don't string them along. If you realize things aren't going to work, go and tell them immediately. You don't want them getting more emotionally attached while you're heading elsewhere.
2) Gracefully
3) Reasonably
4) Clearly
1) Quickly
Don't drag things out. Don't string them along. If you realize things aren't going to work, go and tell them immediately. You don't want them getting more emotionally attached while you're heading elsewhere.
2) Gracefully
- Don't be a jerk
- Realize you're probably going to hurt the person
- Show sympathy for their feelings
- Do it in person if you're not 100s of miles apart
- Do it somewhere it won't be awkward...you really don't want to be responsible for them embarrassing themselves by crying in the middle of the hallway at school. NOT COOL!
3) Reasonably
- Tell them in plain language what is going on
- Don't leave them guessing, that would be rude
- Realize they're looking for closer. Sometimes that isn't possible, but if you blatantly leave them without answers, they'll keep following you around until you give them.
4) Clearly
- Don't be subtle...if they deserve better (assuming they aren't a jerk) and if they really like you they won't get it
- Don't simply leave clues or stop calling
- Don't use vague language leaves them thinking there is hope where there is none
Friday, May 29, 2009
Is it ever appropriate to fight someone for your girlfriend if they are being disrespected?
Jennifer put it well when she said this:
Your reaction should match the action.
Some guys turning everything into a verbal confrontation. That's bad. You need to respond with appropriate force.
I recall going to a concert about 8 years ago. I was in the middle of the mosh pit towards the center of the stage. It was jam packed with the most rabid and excited fans. Everyone was there to enjoy the show...except this one guy who though his job was to keep everyone away from his girlfriend. He was made worse by the fact that he was holding to cups of beer over her head. If he didn't want anyone near his girlfriend, he shouldn't have been in the middle of a mosh pit. He was just looking for a fight.
Don't do stuff like that. That isn't defending her honor. That's just being a jerk.
Think about it this way.
Your reaction should match the action.
Some guys turning everything into a verbal confrontation. That's bad. You need to respond with appropriate force.
I recall going to a concert about 8 years ago. I was in the middle of the mosh pit towards the center of the stage. It was jam packed with the most rabid and excited fans. Everyone was there to enjoy the show...except this one guy who though his job was to keep everyone away from his girlfriend. He was made worse by the fact that he was holding to cups of beer over her head. If he didn't want anyone near his girlfriend, he shouldn't have been in the middle of a mosh pit. He was just looking for a fight.
Don't do stuff like that. That isn't defending her honor. That's just being a jerk.
Think about it this way.
- A harmless joke gets a harmless response
- A slight offense needs a non-confrontational verbal warning
- An offensive comment needs a verbal confrontation
- A physical assault requires you physically remove the person and then call the police
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 11 - Q&A
1) What does it mean to treat women like sisters?
2) What is an appropriate way to break up with a girl once you realize she isn't the girl God has for you?
3) How can you avoid lust while not becoming someone who notices nothing?
4) Is it ever ok to fight someone if they disrespect your girlfriend?
2) What is an appropriate way to break up with a girl once you realize she isn't the girl God has for you?
3) How can you avoid lust while not becoming someone who notices nothing?
4) Is it ever ok to fight someone if they disrespect your girlfriend?
