Aren't we called to treat women like sisters? I don't desire a sister; can you explain that?

1 Timothy 51 Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, 2 older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity. If you're a good sibling, you're protective towards yours sisters. You care for them. You want them best for them. You don't take sexual advantage of them. You don't make sexual advances towards them.Things You Do With Your SisterHang outTalkGo eatPlay gamesThings You Don't Do With Your SisterMake outTalk DirtyPass first, second, or third base...or go anywhere ear the fieldBrothers and fathers are notorious for threatening to beat up anyone that...

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What's an appropriate way (after you have figured out that you and your girlfriend/boyfriend aren't "meant to be") to let them go?

Do it...1) QuicklyDon't drag things out. Don't string them along. If you realize things aren't going to work, go and tell them immediately. You don't want them getting more emotionally attached while you're heading elsewhere.2) GracefullyDon't be a jerkRealize you're probably going to hurt the personShow sympathy for their feelingsDo it in person if you're not 100s of miles apartDo it somewhere it won't be awkward...you really don't want to be responsible for them embarrassing themselves by crying in the middle of the hallway at school. NOT COOL!3) ReasonablyTell them in plain language what is going onDon't leave them guessing, that would be...

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Is it ever appropriate to fight someone for your girlfriend if they are being disrespected?

Jennifer put it well when she said this:Your reaction should match the action.Some guys turning everything into a verbal confrontation. That's bad. You need to respond with appropriate force. I recall going to a concert about 8 years ago. I was in the middle of the mosh pit towards the center of the stage. It was jam packed with the most rabid and excited fans. Everyone was there to enjoy the show...except this one guy who though his job was to keep everyone away from his girlfriend. He was made worse by the fact that he was holding to cups of beer over her head. If he didn't want anyone near his girlfriend, he shouldn't have been in the middle...

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Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 11 - Q&A

1) What does it mean to treat women like sisters?2) What is an appropriate way to break up with a girl once you realize she isn't the girl God has for you?3) How can you avoid lust while not becoming someone who notices nothing?4) Is it ever ok to fight someone if they disrespect your girlfriend? ...

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Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 11 - How to Get a Girlfriend...

...or Love Versus Infatuation. ...

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What is in a man that God wants to pull out of him before marriage?

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Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 10 - What is Love?

Before You Say, "I Do" Session 10 - What is Lo...

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Men need to embrace authority and responsibility

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Girls, You Want a Husband Who Loves Jesus

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If You Wait, God Will Bring You a Man....maybe not

Another funny clip from Matt Chandler. He takes on some common ideas regarding singlene...

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Why men and women are just like computers

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What if you have already messed up? Am I still worthy of a spouse? Because I know I am filthy and not deserving?

Absolutely. I often feel silly or old fashioned when I use phrases like “lies of the devil,” but I believe that this thought is a lie to keep you from giving God the credit He deserves. Think of, if you will, of Bobby Boucher’s mother saying “foos-ball is da debbil!” Only, instead of football, insert this idea where you believe you’re unworthy of forgiveness or redemption because of what you have done. Nobody is perfect. It’s human nature to sin. I’m not condoning sin in any capacity, but we are sinful, and that’s the bottom line. Christ knew this about us, and died for us anyway. Like Sean talked about Monday night, Christ’s righteousness is...

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Jennifer's Advice in Regards to Marriage and Accountability

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Is it okay to date a non-Christian with a bad reputation who is willing to go to church with you?

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What shaping does God need to do in a woman before she's ready for marriage?

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What if you have already messed up? Am I still worthy of a wife? Because I know I am filthy and not deserving.

By yourself, you are completely and totally unworthy. You're an unworthy sinner. But through Christ your sins have been forgiven. Christianity isn't a religion about rules, guilt, and shame. It's about a God who came down to earth to redeem and forgive mankind. Though we were undeserving of His grace, He sent His son Jesus to the earth to die for your sin. Your sin was put on Him. He paid the price on the cross, and conquered death through the resurrection. We have access to this forgiveness by turning from our sin and putting our faith in Christ.If you've put your faith in Christ, you don't need to carry the weight and guilt of your sin. Christ...

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Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 9 - How Far is Too Far?

Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 9 - How Far is Too F...

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Articles on Teenage Sex and Sexting

Someone asked for my sources on some of the statistics I've quoted. Here are some of the articles I've been reading.When the Cell Phone Teaches Sex EducationFlirting goes high-tech with racy photos shared on cellphones, WebMiddle school youth as young as 12 engaging in risky sexual activ...

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God Doesn't Want Passive Men

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For a girl to be sober-minded, does she need to be able to stay together emotionally both personally and in post-breakup interactions? (Jenn’s take)

Wow, good question. The short answer is yes.That is to say that, to exhibit a character of sobriety or self control should be a commonplace thing in your life. As a general rule, you should be well-balanced, even keel, and not erratic in your behavior.Granted, things happen in life that catch us off guard, that cause us to feel unbalanced and out of sorts. Let me clarify this by saying that, when you are grieving, you’re not less of a woman for crying, sobbing, wailing, feeling sad, etc. That in and of itself does not mean you’re emotionally out of control.As far as relationships go, it’s natural to be sad when one ends – it’s hard. You’re entitled...

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You say not to stare at girls. Do you honestly say you don't struggle? How do you keep from looking?

I'd be highly suspicious of any guy who claims he doesn't struggle with lust. In fact, I'd say any guy claiming not to struggle with lust falls into one of four categories.1) He's Lying2) He's Confused or Defining "Struggle" Differently3) There's Something Wrong With Him4) He's JesusStruggling doesn't mean he's sinning. It does mean he's tempted to stare at and lust after girls who aren't his wife. Jesus answered your question in the Sermon on the Mount and Paul restates the same principle in 1st Corinthians.Matthew 527"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has...

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Say you have a chick dat be all up on your jock but goes to church; how do you know God didn't put her in your life?

The best way to discover God's will for our lives is to read our Bibles. God may have a will for you in addition to scripture but not in contradiction of scripture. If all of scripture indicates you shouldn't date a girl who is all up in your jock, then God doesn't want you to date her.I don't really need to expand on this, but here are some relevant Proverbs. Proverbs 626 for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life. Proverbs 710 Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. Proverbs 29:3A man who loves wisdom brings joy to his father, but a companion of...

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Before You Say, "I Do"- Session 8 - Q & A

Raw and real answers to questions received via text message. 1) You say not to stair at girls. Do you honestly say you don't struggle? How do you keep from looking? 2) Is the tradition of guys paying for the date a biblical tradition? What if the girl wants to pay? 3) What should a guy's sense of humor be? "That's what she said" or very stoic? 4) Is there a too serious mode? ...

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Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 8 - Act Like a Man Part II

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What if the girl you like used to be a "slut," but she claims she's changed and is an avid Christian? Do you look at the past? (Jenn’s take)

When I first heard this question, a warning sounded in my head. Guys, if this is the girl you’re looking at dating, I strongly encourage you to consider WHY you want to date her.Did you meet her, think of her as a strong Christian, or a girl with good character, and then find out about her past? If so, then you’re probably at least on the right track. Like Sean said though, be patient and conscious of the timing. If this is a recent life-change for this girl, even if she is building a good reputation, give it time to solidify. Give her time to grow in her relationship with God before initiating something romantic.Now, the reason my red flag went...

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How to Be Romantic

This is really meant for married couples, but the guy talking is Matt Chandler...and I'll use any excuse possible to include preaching from a Chandl...

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What do you do when you follow all these rules and the relationship still fails? (Jenn's take)

I think I would say that the greatest benefit to following the rules isn't specifically finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, but knowing that you treated everyone you had a relationship with in a God honoring manner. You know what I'm saying?The question is coming at this from the wrong angle; the point of these discussions and nuggets of wisdom is not to give you a step-by-step “how to find a spouse.” It’s more how to avoid common mistakes and misconceptions about relationships, dating, and marriage. If you’re looking to this information as a formula to discover your soul mate, you’re going to be sorely disappointed.Chances are, if you follow what we’ve...

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What is wrong with braided hair?

Both Peter and Paul used words against braided hair. Why?1 Timothy 2:9I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes,1 Peter 3:3-43 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4 Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.The point isn't that braided hair is sinful. The point is that true beauty is in the inner self. Both passages are speaking against being obsessed with outer appearance. Our culture...

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