What if the girl you like used to be a "slut," but she claims she's changed and is an avid Christian? Do you look at the past?

We serve a God of redemption. The last thing you want to do with a Christian girl with remarkable story of life-change is hold her past against her. Her sins were nailed to the cross of Christ. She is wrapped in the righteousness of Christ and indwelled by the Holy Spirit. Her sin was paid for by Christ. If we continue to persecute her for her sin, then we insult Christ's sacrifice on the cross by suggesting it wasn't enough to forgive her sin.

Romans 5
9 Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God's wrath through him!

2nd Corinthians 5
21 God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

Be Careful

With that stated, lots of people "go to church" and claim to be a "Christian." Christianity and church attendance are part of American culture. For that matter, a lot of churches are more like self-help seminars than places of worship and community.

In Jesus' parable of the sower (Matthew 13), we're warned about people who hear the gospel, respond to the gospel, but who have no roots and quickly fall away. I don't want to get into a theological debate about which of the groups were truly saved. The important detail is that many people will appear to grow quickly, but they will fall away quickly.

Wait Until Her Character Has Grown Into a Reputation of Integrity

For this reason, it's important that you wait until her character grows into reputation of integrity. People can change their behavior temporarily, but only Christ can truly change someone on the inside. True life change will eventually turn into a reputation.

Be patient. There's no reason to rush into a relationship. More importantly, if she used to be a "slut," then she's got a lot of baggage and issues to work through. The last thing she needs is to be in a relationship. Let her grow in her relationship with Christ. If she's still growing strong after a year, go for it. Often times the people with the roughest past will be the most passionate about Christ because they don't take sin for granted.

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