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Thursday, June 4, 2009
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Sunday, May 31, 2009
Aren't we called to treat women like sisters? I don't desire a sister; can you explain that?
1 Timothy 51 Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, 2 older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity. If you're a good sibling, you're protective towards yours sisters. You care for them. You want them best for them. You don't take sexual advantage of them. You don't make sexual advances towards them.Things You Do With Your SisterHang outTalkGo eatPlay gamesThings You Don't Do With Your SisterMake outTalk DirtyPass first, second, or third base...or go anywhere ear the fieldBrothers and fathers are notorious for threatening to beat up anyone that...
Saturday, May 30, 2009
What's an appropriate way (after you have figured out that you and your girlfriend/boyfriend aren't "meant to be") to let them go?
Do it...1) QuicklyDon't drag things out. Don't string them along. If you realize things aren't going to work, go and tell them immediately. You don't want them getting more emotionally attached while you're heading elsewhere.2) GracefullyDon't be a jerkRealize you're probably going to hurt the personShow sympathy for their feelingsDo it in person if you're not 100s of miles apartDo it somewhere it won't be awkward...you really don't want to be responsible for them embarrassing themselves by crying in the middle of the hallway at school. NOT COOL!3) ReasonablyTell them in plain language what is going onDon't leave them guessing, that would be...
Friday, May 29, 2009
Is it ever appropriate to fight someone for your girlfriend if they are being disrespected?
Jennifer put it well when she said this:Your reaction should match the action.Some guys turning everything into a verbal confrontation. That's bad. You need to respond with appropriate force. I recall going to a concert about 8 years ago. I was in the middle of the mosh pit towards the center of the stage. It was jam packed with the most rabid and excited fans. Everyone was there to enjoy the show...except this one guy who though his job was to keep everyone away from his girlfriend. He was made worse by the fact that he was holding to cups of beer over her head. If he didn't want anyone near his girlfriend, he shouldn't have been in the middle...
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 11 - Q&A
1) What does it mean to treat women like sisters?2) What is an appropriate way to break up with a girl once you realize she isn't the girl God has for you?3) How can you avoid lust while not becoming someone who notices nothing?4) Is it ever ok to fight someone if they disrespect your girlfriend? ...
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
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If You Wait, God Will Bring You a Man....maybe not
Another funny clip from Matt Chandler. He takes on some common ideas regarding singlene...
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Monday, May 18, 2009
What if you have already messed up? Am I still worthy of a spouse? Because I know I am filthy and not deserving?
Absolutely. I often feel silly or old fashioned when I use phrases like “lies of the devil,” but I believe that this thought is a lie to keep you from giving God the credit He deserves. Think of, if you will, of Bobby Boucher’s mother saying “foos-ball is da debbil!” Only, instead of football, insert this idea where you believe you’re unworthy of forgiveness or redemption because of what you have done. Nobody is perfect. It’s human nature to sin. I’m not condoning sin in any capacity, but we are sinful, and that’s the bottom line. Christ knew this about us, and died for us anyway. Like Sean talked about Monday night, Christ’s righteousness is...
Saturday, May 16, 2009
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Wednesday, May 13, 2009
What if you have already messed up? Am I still worthy of a wife? Because I know I am filthy and not deserving.
By yourself, you are completely and totally unworthy. You're an unworthy sinner. But through Christ your sins have been forgiven. Christianity isn't a religion about rules, guilt, and shame. It's about a God who came down to earth to redeem and forgive mankind. Though we were undeserving of His grace, He sent His son Jesus to the earth to die for your sin. Your sin was put on Him. He paid the price on the cross, and conquered death through the resurrection. We have access to this forgiveness by turning from our sin and putting our faith in Christ.If you've put your faith in Christ, you don't need to carry the weight and guilt of your sin. Christ...
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Monday, May 11, 2009
Articles on Teenage Sex and Sexting
Someone asked for my sources on some of the statistics I've quoted. Here are some of the articles I've been reading.When the Cell Phone Teaches Sex EducationFlirting goes high-tech with racy photos shared on cellphones, WebMiddle school youth as young as 12 engaging in risky sexual activ...
Sunday, May 10, 2009
For a girl to be sober-minded, does she need to be able to stay together emotionally both personally and in post-breakup interactions? (Jenn’s take)
Wow, good question. The short answer is yes.That is to say that, to exhibit a character of sobriety or self control should be a commonplace thing in your life. As a general rule, you should be well-balanced, even keel, and not erratic in your behavior.Granted, things happen in life that catch us off guard, that cause us to feel unbalanced and out of sorts. Let me clarify this by saying that, when you are grieving, you’re not less of a woman for crying, sobbing, wailing, feeling sad, etc. That in and of itself does not mean you’re emotionally out of control.As far as relationships go, it’s natural to be sad when one ends – it’s hard. You’re entitled...
Friday, May 8, 2009
You say not to stare at girls. Do you honestly say you don't struggle? How do you keep from looking?
I'd be highly suspicious of any guy who claims he doesn't struggle with lust. In fact, I'd say any guy claiming not to struggle with lust falls into one of four categories.1) He's Lying2) He's Confused or Defining "Struggle" Differently3) There's Something Wrong With Him4) He's JesusStruggling doesn't mean he's sinning. It does mean he's tempted to stare at and lust after girls who aren't his wife. Jesus answered your question in the Sermon on the Mount and Paul restates the same principle in 1st Corinthians.Matthew 527"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has...
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Say you have a chick dat be all up on your jock but goes to church; how do you know God didn't put her in your life?
The best way to discover God's will for our lives is to read our Bibles. God may have a will for you in addition to scripture but not in contradiction of scripture. If all of scripture indicates you shouldn't date a girl who is all up in your jock, then God doesn't want you to date her.I don't really need to expand on this, but here are some relevant Proverbs. Proverbs 626 for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life. Proverbs 710 Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. Proverbs 29:3A man who loves wisdom brings joy to his father, but a companion of...
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do"- Session 8 - Q & A
Raw and real answers to questions received via text message. 1) You say not to stair at girls. Do you honestly say you don't struggle? How do you keep from looking? 2) Is the tradition of guys paying for the date a biblical tradition? What if the girl wants to pay? 3) What should a guy's sense of humor be? "That's what she said" or very stoic? 4) Is there a too serious mode? ...
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
What if the girl you like used to be a "slut," but she claims she's changed and is an avid Christian? Do you look at the past? (Jenn’s take)
When I first heard this question, a warning sounded in my head. Guys, if this is the girl you’re looking at dating, I strongly encourage you to consider WHY you want to date her.Did you meet her, think of her as a strong Christian, or a girl with good character, and then find out about her past? If so, then you’re probably at least on the right track. Like Sean said though, be patient and conscious of the timing. If this is a recent life-change for this girl, even if she is building a good reputation, give it time to solidify. Give her time to grow in her relationship with God before initiating something romantic.Now, the reason my red flag went...
Sunday, May 3, 2009
How to Be Romantic
This is really meant for married couples, but the guy talking is Matt Chandler...and I'll use any excuse possible to include preaching from a Chandl...
Saturday, May 2, 2009
What do you do when you follow all these rules and the relationship still fails? (Jenn's take)
I think I would say that the greatest benefit to following the rules isn't specifically finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, but knowing that you treated everyone you had a relationship with in a God honoring manner. You know what I'm saying?The question is coming at this from the wrong angle; the point of these discussions and nuggets of wisdom is not to give you a step-by-step “how to find a spouse.” It’s more how to avoid common mistakes and misconceptions about relationships, dating, and marriage. If you’re looking to this information as a formula to discover your soul mate, you’re going to be sorely disappointed.Chances are, if you follow what we’ve...
Friday, May 1, 2009
What is wrong with braided hair?
Both Peter and Paul used words against braided hair. Why?1 Timothy 2:9I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes,1 Peter 3:3-43 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4 Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.The point isn't that braided hair is sinful. The point is that true beauty is in the inner self. Both passages are speaking against being obsessed with outer appearance. Our culture...
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Should a long-distance relationship discourage you? (Jenn’s take)
Similarly to Sean, I’ve been in two long-distance relationships: one ended well, and the other…did not.I guess the best advice I have to offer is to challenge you to ask yourself why you’d want to go through that. As my relationship with Sean demonstrates, it’s possible to date long distance and have it work out. But it’s hard work, requires (in my opinion) much more commitment and effort on both people than regular dating, and has its own unique set of difficulties – in addition to the regular ones that come from starting a new relationship.So, WHY would you want to do that?If your answer is somewhere in the ballpark of, “Because I think he/she...
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 7 - Q & A
These are raw answers to questions received live via text message.(1) What about Ghandi's passive approach? He won the war.(2) How do you put these things into practice in your own life?(3) Where is the line when it comes to being passive or being a total testosterone-fueled jerk? How might one keep from being a jerk while still being assertive? ...
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Monday, April 27, 2009
Since we all sin and no one is perfect, how are you supposed to tell if someone has these qualities?
The goal isn't to find the perfect man or woman. If that's what you want...It's not gonna happen. Passages like Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 shouldn't be seen as a checklist for prospective dates. They shouldn't be seen as a goal to work towards.When looking for "the one," you want to find someone who is actively seeking to grow closer to God in these areas (Girls - Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 - Guys - Titus 2). No one has all of the qualities perfectly manifested (well except Jesus). Ask These Questions(1) Which areas are they the weakest?(2) What are they doing about it?If someone is completely ignoring character weaknesses, they aren't pursing Christ....
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 6 - Part III - The Story of Sean and Jennifer Chandler
Three married couples share their testimony of how they met one another, how they've changed over the years, and what they've learned through marriage. This is the story of Sean and Jennifer Chandler. Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 6 - The Chandler's St...
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 6 - Part II - The Story of Shawn and Krista Hammer
Three married couples share their testimony of how they met one another, how they've changed over the years, and what they've learned through marriage. This is the story of Shawn and Krista Hammer. Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 6 - The Hammers' St...
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 6 - Part I- The Story of Brent and Carrie Hagen
Three married couples share their testimony of how they met one another, how they've changed over the years, and what they've learned through marriage. This is the story of Brent and Carrie Hagen.Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 6 - The Hagens' St...
Monday, April 20, 2009
Sunday, April 19, 2009
If you struggle with an addiction but are fighting it, are you a hypocrite when you try and share your faith?
*Disclaimer*I'm answering this question assuming that the person asking the question is referring to an addiction to specific sin, and my answer is in regards to that specific kind of addiction. Short answer, it depends on your definition of hypocrite.Webster's Dictionary defines hypocrite two different ways.Hypocrite: 1 : a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion 2 : a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings All Bible-believing Christians are hypocrites according to the second definition. Central to Christianity is our inability to live up to God's standards. We're all sinners with sinful...
Saturday, April 18, 2009
What do you do when you follow all these rules and the relationship still fails? (Jenn's take)
I think I would say that the greatest benefit to following the rules isn't even specifically finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, but knowing that you treated everyone you had a relationship with in a God honoring manner. You know what I'm sayi...
Friday, April 17, 2009
Thursday, April 16, 2009
What should my future boyfriend/girlfriend look like financially?
Here's the bottom line:It's not about an amountIt's about an attitudeTitus 2 4 Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled and pure...Scripture teaches that we're to live controlled lives. We're not to live reckless, indulgent lives. So the issue is not any specific dollar amount. The issue is how the person approaches funds.Our society is totally and unashamedly in love with instant gratification. Whatever we want, we want it now. This is entirely contrary to Jesus' example. You can find many rich people with no debt but an entirely worldly view of money and spending. On the other hand, you...
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
What if the girl you like used to be a "slut," but she claims she's changed and is an avid Christian? Do you look at the past?
We serve a God of redemption. The last thing you want to do with a Christian girl with remarkable story of life-change is hold her past against her. Her sins were nailed to the cross of Christ. She is wrapped in the righteousness of Christ and indwelled by the Holy Spirit. Her sin was paid for by Christ. If we continue to persecute her for her sin, then we insult Christ's sacrifice on the cross by suggesting it wasn't enough to forgive her sin.Romans 59 Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God's wrath through him! 2nd Corinthians 521 God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we...
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Q & A - Session 5
This week's questions:(1) What is wrong with braided hair?(2) Say you have a chick dat be all up on your jock but goes to church; how do you know God didn't put her in your life?(3) What does a boyfriend/girlfriend need to look like financially?(4) Are you supposed to find a future girlfriend attractive? What if you don't find her sexually attractive? ...
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 2 - Who Can I Date?
Far too many people have absolutely no standards when it comes to who they'll date. It appears the only requirement is opportunity. This lesson examines several biblical principles on who you should date.Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 2 - Who Can I Da...
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Text Questions
It has occurred to me that some people reading this blog might not know why I'm addressing the topics I'm addressing. The answer is simple: I'm answering questions which where text messaged to my wife while I was preaching. After preaching she comes up and we answer questions. Then, as my time permits, I write a more through answer and post it on here. Any post which has "text question" as a tag is a question which someone asked by text message. If I get brave I might post my wife's cell phone number on here and open this up to more peop...
If I am too Young for Marriage is it Wrong to Date?
This is a question Mark Driscoll was texted, and the video is his answer. Right now I don't agree with his answer, but he's older and wiser than me. So it would be foolish for me to ignore his answer. Likewise, it is good for you to hear the opinions and wisdom of a multitude of people. I can be and often am WRONG. Listen to what he has to s...
Friday, April 10, 2009
What if the chicks got a tat?
If you go to Biblegateway.com and do a search for "tattoo," one verse will come up.Leviticus 19:28 "'Do not cut your bodies for the dead or put tattoo marks on yourselves. I am the LORD. At first glance and without applying any exegetical (fancy Bible college word) skills, it appears the Bible condemns tattoos. However, with a little study it becomes clear something else is going on in this verse.First off, the passage isn't condemning tattoos in general. It is condemning getting tattoos for the dead. This was a practice of the Cannaanites (neighbors of the nation of Israel). Our culture doesn't have any obvious parallels to this practice. Second,...
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 1 - Why Date?
In a country where 50% of marriages end in divorce and purity is considered being disease free, something has gone terrible wrong with our views on marriage, love, purity, masculinity, and femininity. Our education system will help you get in college, and college will train you to get a job. But who is training the next generation on how to be a husband, a wife, a father, a mother, and a man or woman of God? This is the introduction to a series which teaches teenagers that the time to prepare for a successful marriage is before you say, "I do."Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 1 - Why Da...
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 4 - She's the One Part I
Our culture is pretty clear on what it thinks women should: hot, sexy, and ambitious. But what does a godly woman look like? What should young women strive to be? Well examine those questions in this two part study of Titus 2.Before You Say, "I Do" - Session 4 - She's the One - Part...
Before You Say "I Do" - Q & A - Session 4
My talk ran so long last night that I ran out of tape on my camcorder and the Hard drive filled up on my back up camera.In fact the last minute of the video the audio changes because my primary audio recording device filled up.So I was only able to record the first of the 5 or so questions which we answered. I'll be answering all of the questions in blog form this week.This week's question:For a girl to be sober-minded, does she needed to be able to stay together emotionally both personally and in post-breakup interactions?Before You Say "I Do" - Q & A - Session...
Monday, April 6, 2009
What if you have a great guy you are dating and he still doesn’t feel like the one?
Mark Driscoll and his wife Grace answer the question, "What if you have a great guy you are dating and he still doesn’t feel like the one?"Check out this video here (I'm not sure why it won't embed):http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/the-peasant-princess/do-not-awaken-love/7pm-q-aThe clip starts at 4 minutes and 15 secon...
How do you know when the girl/boy you are dating is the one God has destined for you?
First off, I'll start off by saying that I do not believe that God has picked out one specific person you're supposed to find and marry. I don't see that idea in scripture, and I think it works in the practical sense.If you think about it, if God has picked one person for you but he doesn't tell you explicitly who it is, then we're left to guess work to figure out the will of God. The idea that God has a specific desire for your life which isn't communicated to us, does not sit well with me, and I don't see it in scripture. One of the dangers of putting too much emphasis on finding "the one" is that scripture doesn't put a big emphasis on finding...
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Saturday, April 4, 2009
How long should you date before proposing?
There's no set amount of time you should date before proposing. Generally speaking, the younger you are, the longer I would encourage you to date before proposing (though there are certainly exceptions). The younger you are, the less stable your life is and typically you won't know as well the direction your life is headed. Here are some principles to consider before proposing.1) When You've Come to a Point Where You Know What Direction You Want to Take With Your LifeMarriage is hard no matter what, but it's much harder if you marry someone who's life is headed in a different direction than yours. If desire for your spouse to be a stay-at-home...
Thursday, April 2, 2009
What do you do when you follow all of these rules and the relationship still fails?
I see two different ways to interpret this question:1) What do you do when you follow all of these rules and you still break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend?2) What do you do when you follow all of these rules and you still have a bad marriage?First off, you need to realize that these are principles and experiential wisdom. Since dating isn't directly addressed in scripture, there aren't many rules about dating found in scripture. We find some rules about sexuality. We find descriptions of love, masculinity, and femininity. And we find a great of scripture on how to live wisely.Second, nothing you can do will 100% guarantee a successful marriage...
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
What happens when God puts multiple godly girls in your life (whom you're romantically interested)?
Don't date all of them at the same time! You aren't the Christian Bachelor. You aren't God's gift to women. Dating shouldn't be a competition. Don't pit them against each other. You don't want to lead them on or become emotionally attached. Instead, focus on being friends with all of them. Over time it will become clear if one of them is the one you should date. I met Jennifer literally days before I left for Bible college, and Bible college is filled with Godly women. I'd only just met Jennifer, there was no commitment, and we were 1,200 miles apart. There was every reason to look for a relationship at my college. However, after I met Jennifer,...
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Before You Say, "I Do" - Q & A - Session 3
This week's questions:(1) If you struggle with an addiction but are fighting it, are you a hypocrite when you try and share your faith?(2) What happens when God puts multiple godly girls in your life (whom you're romantically interested)?(3) How long should you date before proposing?(4) Is it wrong to do photoshopping (air brushing celebrities on magazine covers) as a career?Before You Say "I Do" - Q & A - Session...
Thursday, March 26, 2009
What do you say to church members who disapprove of your God-centered relationship? Part 2 (Jenn's take)
Well, I think Sean summarized it pretty well already, but here's my two cents:One thing that I think is essential in resolving conflict of any kind is a "safe" environment. Nobody is at their best behavior when they feel threatened, insulted, belittled, or disrespected. Keep this in mind when you think about this issue.In what context have these people expressed concerns about your relationship? How did you respond?If they're accusatory, chances are, you're going to go on the defensive and not listen to what they're saying -- that's what I did when I found myself in this situation many years ago. Here are just a few ideas to try to help you from...
What do you say to church members who disapprove of your God-centered relationship? Part 1 (Sean's take)
This is a difficult question to answer for several reasons. I'll just tell you my problems with the question and hopefully that will point you towards the answer to your question.1) I Don't Know Who these Church Members AreThere are a number of different church members who might be raising concerns.Is it your girlfriend's parents? If so, then you need to respect them as an authority over them. If you can't submit to their authority, you aren't ready to be dating.Is it a more mature believer who loves you and wants the best for both of you? In that case, you would be foolish to ignore their concerns. There are reasons why they could be wrong,...
Should a long distance relationship discourage you?
No but it should cause you to seriously consider the relationship.I've been in two long distance relationships. One ended with me heart broken and swearing off long distance relationships. The other ended with me engaged and then married. So I can speak from experience on the best and worst of long distance relationships.Things to Consider:1) Communication is HardAll of our communication will be through phone, email, text message, Facebook, and MySpace. Having extended planned phone calls is hard. My first serious relationship ended because I kept calling her when she was off to hangout with her new friends. I was desperate to talk to her, but...
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
How Do You Manage Your Struggles With Lust? Part 1 of 3
When addressing this subject, we need to make sure we have a correct understanding of the battle and the end goal. So I wanted to make sure a couple of points were clear before directly answering the question.Put Your Lust to Death, Don't Just Manage It1 Corinthians 6:18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.Colossians 3:5Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.The name of this post is the exact content of a text message I received from a student. The...
How Do You Manage Your Struggles With Lust? Part 2 of 3
1) Acknowledge It is Sin and RepentThe first part is much easier than the second. If you have any faith in Christ then the Holy Spirit is in you, and you should be able to acknowledge that your behavior is sinful. However, choosing to repent and turn from your sin requires far more from you.Repentance means you are choosing to move in the opposite direction. It's not simply scaling back your lustful desires. It is pursing righteousness. If you're not pursing something else, you'll quickly drift back to where you were at.2) Confess Your Sin to a More Mature Believer Who Will Hold You AccountableJames 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each...
How Do You Manage Your Struggles With Lust? Part 3 of 3
BooksEvery Young Man's Battle - The title says it all. If you're a guy, read it.Every Young Woman's Battle - The girl version.Websitesxxxchurch.com - Videos and articles on how to battle lust, masturbation, and porn addictionPorn Again Christian - An ebook by Mark Driscoll on battling porn and masturbation. Written for guys onlyAccountability Softwarexxxchurch.com - Free softwareCovenant Eyes - Costs Mont...
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
What if there is someone that believes in God, but they don't go to church?
I'll start off by acknowledging that there are valid reasons someone might not "go" to church.Unusual circumstances (physical limitations, parent forbids attendance)Attend a house churchNo good local churchesMeet with believers in some alternative settingWith that stated, since you didn't indicate this person has some extenuating circumstances and we live in a city with 50 churches within a 5 mile radius, the fact they don't go to church is a bad si...
Is Picturing Your Girlfriend in a Sexual Way Wrong?
Matthew 5 27"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.Having sexual thoughts about your girlfriend by definition is lust, and scripture and teachings of Jesus clearly forbid lust. Someone is either your spouse or they aren't. So while you may have a commitment to your girlfriend, she is no more your wife than every other girl you're not married to. Therefore, it is sinful to have sexual/lustful thoughts about h...
Before You Say "I Do" - Q & A - Session 1
This weeks questions:(1) "How do you manage your struggles with lust?"(2) "What do you do when you follow all of these rules and the relationship still fails?"(3)"Is picturing your girlfriend in a sexual way wrong?"Before You Say "I Do" - Q & A - Session...
