When I first heard this question, a warning sounded in my head. Guys, if this is the girl you’re looking at dating, I strongly encourage you to consider WHY you want to date her.
Did you meet her, think of her as a strong Christian, or a girl with good character, and then find out about her past? If so, then you’re probably at least on the right track. Like Sean said though, be patient and conscious of the timing. If this is a recent life-change for this girl, even if she is building a good reputation, give it time to solidify. Give her time to grow in her relationship with God before initiating something romantic.
Now, the reason my red flag went up – if you have known this girl for awhile, and were aware of her previous reputation prior to knowing that she became a Christian, REALLY THINK LONG AND HARD about your motives for dating her. I think that says enough there. Just think about it.
Regardless of which side you find yourself on, if you’ve got concerns about her past, or they’re something you think might intimidate you in the future, maybe just befriend her for the time being, without any intention of dating. That will enable you to get to know her, recognize her character, and hopefully see that, rather than her past. If, for any reason, you feel like you’ll make jokes about her history, or ask questions that need not be asked, then reconsider pursuing a relationship with this girl – for both your sakes.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
What if the girl you like used to be a "slut," but she claims she's changed and is an avid Christian? Do you look at the past? (Jenn’s take)
0 comments:
Post a Comment