What's an appropriate way (after you have figured out that you and your girlfriend/boyfriend aren't "meant to be") to let them go?

Do it...

1) Quickly

Don't drag things out. Don't string them along. If you realize things aren't going to work, go and tell them immediately. You don't want them getting more emotionally attached while you're heading elsewhere.

2) Gracefully

• Don't be a jerk


• Realize you're probably going to hurt the person


• Show sympathy for their feelings


• Do it in person if you're not 100s of miles apart


• Do it somewhere it won't be awkward...you really don't want to be responsible for them embarrassing themselves by crying in the middle of the hallway at school. NOT COOL!

3) Reasonably

• Tell them in plain language what is going on
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• Don't leave them guessing, that would be rude


• Realize they're looking for closer. Sometimes that isn't possible, but if you blatantly leave them without answers, they'll keep following you around until you give them.

4) Clearly

• Don't be subtle...if they deserve better (assuming they aren't a jerk) and if they really like you they won't get it


• Don't simply leave clues or stop calling


• Don't use vague language leaves them thinking there is hope where there is none

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